Hi Reader,

Here's the thing about sensory supports that keeps me up at night.

How many times have you heard (or maybe even said) things like:

"You don't need your earmuffs, you're OK"

"You're so brave for not wearing them today!"

"Well done for coping without your weighted blanket"

We think we're helping. We think we're building resilience.

But what we're actually doing is teaching kids that their needs are negotiable, that comfort is a bonus and that asking for support is something to grow out of.

When we praise a child for masking, for hiding their true needs, for pushing through discomfort, we're setting them up for a lifetime of believing their baseline needs don't matter.

The shift we need to make is this:

Sensory supports (and any supports, really) aren't temporary training wheels. They're not a burden or something weird that makes you different.

They're a basic human right. And they should be as easy and unremarkable as grabbing a jumper when you're cold.

When a child feels safe, comfortable, connected and supported, without shame or hassle, they can actually be in tune with themselves, and show up as themselves. They can learn, play, and engage without spending all their energy just trying to cope, to exist, or to ‘seem ok’.

So instead of "you don't need that," let's try: "Here are your earmuffs if you want them. I've got my earplugs ready too!"

Instead of praising a child for ‘managing’ without their supports, normalise ensuring they have what they need or want, when they need or want it.

The goal isn't to teach kids to cope without support, or to look normal, or act like the other kids. The goal is to teach them that their needs are valid, that support is normal, and that they deserve to feel OK.

Did something in this email stick out for you, as something you want to think or learn about more? Reply and let me know!

Have a wonderful week,

Adina

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